Life is flowing, flow with the right people

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I have 4 close friends that I can pour my hearts out to. It isn’t uncommon that many people desire such friendships — having a few, but definitely real. But while Samuel Johnson is right on the dot with his quote, I’d also concur with what Humphry Davy said.

He says, “The ideal life is that which has few friends, but many acquaintances.”

And I can’t agree more. It’s on us who we permit to join our gang. We evaluate who our real friends are. …


Tips from a highly self-conscious introvert

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“I’m not shy!” I defended.

“You only talk when you’re spoken to,” he said.

“That doesn’t mean I’m shy. I just have nothing to say.”

“If you’re not shy about it, then why can’t I talk to them?”

“Because I don’t want them to know my private life!”

This is a recent argument. My boyfriend wants to “talk” to my students after I ranted about their misconduct. He happened to be friends with some of them.

But here’s the real issue. My boyfriend…


Don’t worry, you are on your perfect timeline

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“Compare yourself to no one, but yourself.” — Anonymous

You think some of your friends are ahead of you, but they’re not. It’s their time to get accepted at work, it’s your time to pursue what you’re passionate about.

You are on your perfect timeline, they are on theirs.

Be kind to yourself. Can you say demotivating words to your friends? Can you tell them they’re not cut for things? No? Then why are you saying these things to yourself?

I hope you cheer for yourself like how you would cheer for others. You are your own best friend.

Don't…


’Cause we all started as a noob, right?

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“It takes a lot of bad writing to get to a little good writing.” — Truman Capote

We all started writing because “we’re passionate” about it. Like, aah! I’m on fire! Then we feel the strong itch to write everything out.

In my case, I started with pen and paper, scribbling to my heart’s content. It was a fulfilling hobby. However, the time we decide to convert passion into money, things become more serious.

To be honest, writing as a profession can be tedious, too. Worse, it could drive away the fun. But other times, it also drives you crazier…


We tell them what to do next

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Sun Tzu’s Art of War, published in 5th Century BC, contains wisdom that stands true today.

Egyptian hieroglyphs show a glimpse of the earliest rulers and society.

The Bible which was published nearly 1,000 years BC is still passed today.

And the reason why we still have this knowledge from thousands of years ago? Writers.

Our society has come a long way and carried the accumulated knowledge, all because someone put them in print.

Truly, previous writers passed the history of generations which helped us all at large. That’s so freaking cool.

Here’s what I’m thinking: looking forward to 60…


You’re not as kind as you thought you are

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So, you think you’re kind. I believe you.

But what if I tell you, you’re a self-centered simpleton, too, without you’re knowing?

Self-centered people we know appear arrogant, selfish, and conceited. They allow their own ideas and interest to govern their choices. Their selves are the top priority.

Although you don’t possess such daunting attributes, you may not realize that some of your thoughts and ways are already self-centered by nature. Here are signs that show you’re a self-centered person and you don’t realize it.

14 Signs You’re A Secretly Self-Centered (and Selfish) Person

Let’s see how many of the following you can relate to.

1. You think you’re better than other people.

In most cases, you…


Finally, I’m done with the quarter-life crisis

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My early 20s were a rollercoaster ride. Entering adult life is both a shock and a collection of disappointments. But now, before I turn 25, I feel all my previous experiences were coming into place. Some truths were unveiled, and I want to share with you what I learned from them.

Here we go:

About Goals

Maybe today, you’re not the multi-millionaire you thought you’d be. Regardless, there are things better than money like keeping healthy relationships and peace of mind.

Technology is our best asset for a business.

Start building your goals now. We have strength and health. Yeah, we got…


I’m shaking my head, rolling my eyes

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Today, my best friend once again ranted about her unlabelled, 3-year complicated relationship. She seeks comfort from me, but I made a quick turn and called her selfish. I can’t find any better words to get my point through her. It’s been 3 years.

Moreover, her unofficial boyfriend was even more selfish, too.

They were playing tag for 3 long years. As of now, my bestie’s the “it”. For the past two weeks, she was so invested that she prepared an outdoor surprise despite the guy grimly turning her down.

That’s my bestie today — chasing. But next month, tables…

Margarette Mathias

A daydreamer who loves cats, coffee, and life talks.

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